Top 10: First Date Ideas
10 Awesome First Date Ideas Guaranteed To Impress Her
There’s no way around it: First dates are a nerve-wracking occasion. There’s a lot to keep track of. For one, you need to look your best. You have to wear a nice outfit, groom yourself, smell nice, and potentially tidy up your place, depending on whether there’s a chance your date will get to see it at the end of the evening. Then you have to show up on time. Once you’re there, you have to be your wittiest, most impressive self. Make your date laugh, but don’t dominate the conversation. Ask your date questions, but don’t act like an interrogator. Loosen up, but don’t go too wild. Be yourself, but don’t expose anything too out there. Then there’s the end of the date. Do you hug? Do you shake hands? Do you make plans to meet again? Do you kiss? Do you, er, proceed to other things? (Like, say, a first-date hookup?) And if none of that happens, was the date a colossal failure, or was it a success where things are simply moving slowly? And then, whatever happens on the date, what happens the next day? Do you wait to get in touch? Do you send a text message immediately to gauge the situation or set up a second date?On top of all these things to keep in mind, it usually falls on you, as a man, to come up with an idea for what this monumental first date will even be. Of course, sometimes women want to make the first move and will ask you on a date of their choosing (in which case, be a gentleman — you can pick the second date), but chances are, you’ll have a say in what the date looks like. To make things easier, here are 10 first date ideas for you to select from. To make it easy on you, they’re ranked in order of difficulty, from the simplest of date (“Let’s get drinks at a local bar!”) to the most complicated (“Let’s go skydiving!”). Whether you feel like going all out or keeping it relatively safe, this list has you covered, and depending on the date you choose, who you’re meeting there and how it goes, each of these 10 dates has the potential for awesomeness.. So choose wisely, play your cards right and show up on time, and you could be guaranteeing yourself not only a great time with your date, but also (potentially) a lot of future dates.
Drinks At A Bar
It’s a first date go-to for a reason: drinks at a bar are a super simple way to warm up and get to know someone new. For a start, there’s alcohol around, which is a good way to reduce those first date nerves (optional, of course, and don’t overdo it!). There’s also usually mood lighting and the bustling atmosphere of other people chatting to each other, so the scene is already well set. The difficulty level is low with this one: it’s unlikely to surprise her as an option, and it’s generally an easy way to transition from meeting (whether IRL or on an app like Tinder) to dating. The downside is that it’s not very imaginative, though, and it may come across as slightly lazy: it doesn’t require much from you in terms of both coming up with the idea and executing (and potentially paying for) it. It’s also possible that your date will see this as an attempt to get her drunk and sleep with her, so if she’s made it clear she’s looking to keep things above board (at least at first), drinks at a bar may give off the wrong impression. This is your lowest-stakes option, so feel free to use it when you are short on inspiration and want to keep things simple, but not when you’re trying to impress the pants off anyone, so to speak.
Coffee is another low-risk, low-stakes option, but a coffee date doesn’t have the same potentially sleazy connotations as a bar date — it’s daytime and you’ll be in a brightly-lit cafe surrounded by millennials typing away on their MacBooks and brunching groups of friends. Like meeting in a bar, it’s inexpensive — which is a plus for you but, again, may come across as slightly half-hearted — and it’s also easy to escape a coffee date if you aren’t feeling as positively about your date as you expected to; it doesn’t take a huge amount of time to down a coffee and then make an excuse about having something else to jet off to. The main problem with a coffee date is that it’s not very romantic, or even especially date-like: meeting for a coffee is an activity so innocuous that you can do it with friends, co-workers and distant family members alike, so the trick here will be making it clear that you are on date. You will be able to achieve this through the conversation, but it also pays to pick an upscale coffee shop rather than a franchise like Starbucks, and if you’re enjoying her company, you could invite her for a walk to the nearest ice-cream shop to prolong your time together and indicate that you’re interested.
Bowling is a good balance between a novel date idea and one that isn’t too difficult to pull off. It’s fun, kinda silly and provides opportunity for physical contact (“Here, let me help you!”) and laughing at each other’s form. There’s a couple of potential downsides with bowling, though. One is that your date might not exactly be psyched about the idea of a date that requires a physical performance, even one as low-stakes as bowling: if she’s even slightly self-conscious it might be a big ask for a first date. The second is that it takes a bit of organization: you need to find a bowling alley, reserve a lane and hire some bowling shoes — nothing too arduous, but bear it in mind. If you’re both keen though, and you get the organization down pat, you’re in for a fun evening: purchase some snacks and drinks and sit back and enjoy watching your date hurl balls down an alley!
Dinner on a first date is a classic for a reason: It’s unfussy enough that it won’t overwhelm her (assuming you choose the right venue), but it also demonstrates a higher level of commitment to the date than drinks at a bar or coffee. You should be aiming to take your date to a nice restaurant, but there’s no need to go overboard with a Michelin-star number unless that’s completely affordable for you and you’re pumped about the date in question. A small, family-run Italian restaurant or a buzzy Korean grill is about the level you should be aiming for: intimate, good food, and an atmosphere that’s not too stuffy or overblown. Dinner dates require more of a time commitment than more casual drinks-based dates, and it will be pricier, too, but it’s a fairly fail-safe option and relatively easy to pull off, so we’d suggest starting here as a base point.
Theme Park / Carnival
Fairs, festivals, and amusement parks are a notch above a dinner or bowling date in terms of intensity, but they’re an enjoyable date to pull off once you decide to go for it. The main increase in difficulty level is due to the increased time commitment and difficulty of bailing early: If you’ve committed to a theme park or carnival, you can’t exactly leave after an hour if the chemistry isn’t as strong as you’d hoped. In fact, you’re probably looking at around half a day. Otherwise, though, this date idea pretty much takes care of itself: You show up, buy the tickets and stroll around the various stands and rides, with a few stops in between for food and drink. Even if you don’t think your date is the woman of your dreams, it’s still a good excuse to let out your inner kid and have a silly, fun time.
Picnic In A Park
Sure, the saying “a walk in the park” is used to connote a breezy, simple good time, but organizing a picnic in a park for a first date is a fairly sophisticated operation. You’ll need to prep the food ahead of time and this may involve some cooking (or, at least, the putting together of some sandwich ingredients) and you’ll need to make sure you’ve chosen a fine day for your date, too. This is also a date idea where your conversation skills are going to need to be on point, because unlike with bowling or a theme park, there’s nothing else to provide the entertainment for you, short of the occasional bit of people (and pet) watching. However, a picnic in a park, if done well, is about the most idyllic first date possible, so if you can coordinate all the moving parts and pull this one off, you’re going to impress her. Full points for originality, organization and vibe-setting!
Museum / Art Gallery
A date at a museum or art gallery is bound to score you “culture vulture” points, but you have to do some research for this one, which brings it up the difficulty ladder. You’ll need to look into which exhibitions are worth visiting and, if you want to be really impressive, potentially read up a little bit about the artist or curator, too. For bonus points you could also tie the date into your date’s interests — or, whatever limited information you know about your date’s interests before you’ve actually had your first date! For example, if you’re going on a date with a physics major, you could suggest a science museum or science-themed exhibition, or if you’re dating an artist you could take her to a buzzy show at an art gallery. Be careful, though: She’s going to know more about the subject matter than you do, so make sure you’re confident in your choices! There’s a risk you could end up boring her or choosing something that’s not her cup of tea at all — although, of course it’s OK to seek her input on where you go in advance. Having said that, there’s no need to overthink this one too much. So long as you’ve done a bit of groundwork and chosen an exhibition that looks interesting or is getting good reviews, it should be a fairly smooth date to pull off.
Another notch up the difficulty ladder is the cooking class first date, which requires a new level of organization and time commitment. Firstly, you’ll need to find a class in your area that’s pitched at the right level for both of you, and you’ll also need to clear up any allergies or dietary requirements your date has at the outset. And, again, this is one that you won’t be able to bail out of if the date isn’t going as well as you expected, so there’s a high level of commitment here too.Once all that’s taken care of, though, a cooking class can be a great first date idea, and provides a sensuous and amusing bonding experience. If you know your date is a foodie — or at least have a hunch that she’d enjoy this risky first-date hangout — a cooking class might just be the best first date she’s ever been on.
Dancing of any kind is laborious for those among us who lack coordination and rhythm, but dancing with your date is a great way to kick things off on a physical note right from the beginning. There’s a saying that “dancing is like sex standing up,” and that’s a pretty hot note to start the date on, so even if you’re not a natural on the dance floor, it’s worth giving lessons a go. The difficulty level is high here: you’re doing a specific type of dancing you may not be very good at, you have to find a studio or bar that’s putting on lessons, and then you have to stomach the cringe-worthy first few steps, where you’re both awkwardly trying to learn a dance move and appear cool and aloof in front of each other. On the plus side, though, it’s bound to be a real laugh, and you don’t have to talk too much, which will be a boon for shy guys — shy guys who don’t mind dancing, that is. Good luck if you go for this one — it’s bound to be memorable, at the very least!
For the highest difficulty level of first date, you could take your date bungee jumping, white water rafting or even skydiving. These are obviously next-level date ideas that will get you 100% on the originality score, but it’s likely to overwhelm all but the most spontaneous and adventurous of women, so make sure you know your date is that type of person first. Apart from being an insane first date on almost every level, extreme sports tend to be expensive and require plenty or organization, so make sure you’re looking into your option well ahead of time. If you pull it off, though, we’ll take our hats off to you — it’s likely to be a story you tell your future grandkids! AskMen